I sometimes wonder if I need a brick to hit my head before I realize something fully and regret that I didn’t notice the signs or trust my gut feeling. Often this relates to life, such as:
- buying a pair of shoes that are “snug” but cute, and then soon realize they hurt too much to wear?
- eating too many chips and feel gross afterwards?
- drinking too much wine before going to bed only to “pay” for it during the night and the next day?
- taking a new job because it’s an increase in pay or status, rationalizing that your new boss may be gruff but you’ll get used to him; then soon after you realize his personality is just too much to handle?
Gut Feeling About Travelling
For me, more often than not, it relates to travelling where I don’t listen to the little voice in my head, or my “gut feeling”.
So often people will say, “Why don’t you travel somewhere else [other than France] ?” I see the frowns on their faces and hear their disapproving voices. I then set about to search for a trip to somewhere other than France.
Have you been swayed by others to pursue something that deep down just didn’t feel right about?
I don’t have all the answers as to how to stay true to what you really want, but I am discovering some signs. Perhaps you have encountered these warning signs when you are trying to decide where to travel:
Sign #1: Avoidance and Indecision :
I start to do intensive research on all the places I could travel to OTHER THAN France. This happened recently. I wanted to go somewhere in January and asked friends for advice and searched the internet, “Where to travel in January”. I spent weeks and weeks doing research, which I enjoy, but there’s a point where it became a pain. It wasn’t fun doing the research.
Sign: #2: Choices were not fitting into my plan
During my research, I wasn’t able to find the “ideal place”, particularly in January when the weather is crappy in most of the world. I realize Thailand and Australia have good weather, but I didn’t want to spend a ton of money as I might want to go somewhere big next summer.
Sign #3: Not totally committing to the decision
I finally made a decision to go to Portugal. I booked my accommodation for January, but kept holding off on booking the flight. Price? No. Prices were pretty good. Weather? Not perfect, but not too bad. Better than -15 in Toronto.
Sign #4: Excuses NOT to go with my initial decision
During this process I kept thinking about France; Paris in particular. I have been in Paris in January in the past and the weather was about 11 degrees Celsius and sunny. It was actually a beautiful time to go. It was like I was looking for reasons to go to France. So, I cancelled my plans to go to Portugal.
Sign #5: Changed my decision and felt relief and happiness
So even though I know the weather is cold and rainy in January, I decided to add a couple of nights in London, take the Eurostar over to France and stay in Paris just over a week. Once that decision was made, I was excited! It will be my second time to London in 34 years and I have always wanted to take the chunnel to France.
This is not to say that I will ONLY go to France. I am looking at Charleston and French Polynesia later in 2016; however, I have realized that when I try to fit a square peg (non-France destination) into a round hole, there are warning signs and I need to remember to listen to my gut feeling.